you’re not that girl anymore.
For a while now, I’ve been holding back.
It’s not because I don’t love what I do. I do. It’s not because I’m not capable. I know I am. It’s because I’ve been scared af.
Scared of becoming her again.
She was driven. She was dedicated. She gave everything she had to her work. She hustled, she achieved, and she cared deeply about doing it all well. But she also missed out. She missed moments with her kids that she can never get back. She felt the pull to be everywhere and everything. In trying to keep up, she let too much slip away.
I love her for what she taught me. She taught me about resilience. She taught me about passion and the power of showing up. But I don’t want to be her anymore.
Through small, intentional practices I’ve built into my daily life. Quiet moments of reflection. Honest conversations with myself. Learning how to pause. I’ve realized something profound. My choices today don’t have to be shaped by fear of becoming the person I used to be.
For a long time, I prioritized my schedule out of fear. Fear of missing out on moments with my kids. Fear of repeating old patterns. Fear of losing sight of what matters most. That fear came from a good place, but it’s not the place I want to live from anymore.
Because I’m not her anymore.
I’ve grown. I’ve changed. I’ve become someone who understands that balance isn’t about perfection. It’s about intention. I don’t have to hold back out of fear. I can trust myself to make decisions that honor both my work and my family. I can trust that I’ve learned enough to do things differently now.
So, I’m letting go of the fear. I’m stepping into this version of myself who knows she can be present for her kids and also show up for her work with heart and purpose. It’s not about choosing one or the other. It’s about trusting myself to live aligned with my values, moment by moment.
If you’ve ever found yourself holding back because of who you used to be, let this be a reminder. You’re not that person anymore. You can honor who you were without letting that version of yourself define what comes next.
You’ve grown. You’ve changed. You can trust yourself to move forward with intention. Every decision you make today is part of a new story you’re writing.
Here’s to trusting the version of yourself that you’ve worked so hard to become.
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